BBC Newshour Interview on Missouri Abortion Ban - Listen Here

I posted a link to my BBC Newshour interview about Missouri’s 8 week abortion ban, noting it was at the 37:30 mark. It is now available to listen to directly here.

Please listen and share - it provides a great context on what the 8 week abortion ban means for Missourians and the overall goal of bans such as these.

Parents Magazine Covers Full Impact of Abortion Bans, Including Our Story

I have often said that Jim and I were lucky in the most heartbreaking experience of our lives: we had close access to excellent medical care, had good jobs, health insurance, and other elements of privilege protecting us. This article from Parents Magazine covers our story and how it will be impacted by the abortion bans here in Missouri, and likewise in Alabama, Georgia, etc., as well as how those far less fortunate than us will be affected. Please read and consider.

What New Abortion Laws Mean for Moms, Pregnant Women, and Women Who Want to Get Pregnant

Restrictive abortion laws in states across the South and Midwest threaten your right to choose. Here's what they mean for women considering parenthood. May 23, 2019 Robin Utz learned in November of 2016 that there was something wrong with her second-trimester pregnancy.

Missouri's Only Abortion Clinic Likely Closing Friday: What You Can Do NOW

This is not a drill.

Planned Parenthood of the St. Louis Region is the only abortion provider in the state of Missouri. Missouri’s health department is refusing to renew their license. By Friday, May 31, 2019, Missouri may be the only state in the country without an abortion provider.


Why this matters to me

The compassionate doctors and staff at Planned Parenthood guided us through our consents (while reassuring us that while they were judgmental in language, they did not reflect how they, our doctors felt about us). They performed both steps of the 2 day abortion procedure, answered all of my questions and then some, gave me a list of grief counselors, resources for cremation and ash spreading if we so chose, referred me to the life-changingly wonderful Ending a Wanted Pregnancy website where I found endless support, and helped me get my cherished hand and foot prints of Grace Pearl. They were consummate professionals and showed us wonderful care as we faced the hardest and most terrible decision of our lives: ending our desperately wanted pregnancy.

It’s important that we fight to keep them open. All people deserve compassionate, fact-based, non-judgmental health care.

What you can do

  • Sign the petition.

  • Donate to Gateway Women's Access Fund to help Missouri women (who may now have the additional expense of leaving the state) access legal abortion services.

  • Donate to Patient Care at Reproductive Health Services of Planned Parenthood, MO’s last abortion provider:

  • Donate to advocacy to fight for safe, legal abortion in MO:

  • Contact Governor Parson and let him know you feel about this:

  • Contact the Missouri Health & Senior Services Director to let him know how you feel about this nonsense

  • Go to the Rally to end abortion bans on Thursday, May 30th at 11:30 am. Details here and signup here.

  • Sign up for updates from Reproaction, a grassroots organization doing important, local work.

  • Missouri NARAL provides clinic escorts to help those accessing services get through the protesters who harass patients. Hope Clinic in Granite City, IL will absorb Missouri patients and protesters -- they'll need more help. Sign up to become an escort or legal observer (add in the comment box that you’d like to learn more about being an escort).

  • Attend a how-to happy hour on June 6 (I am one of the hosts)!

  • Dine out for Planned Parenthood on June 6: Info here

  • TALK ABOUT ABORTION. Use my story if you want! That’s why I share it - to help protect our rights, not let us lose them.

Missouri's Cruel New Abortion Ban & BBC Newshour

I am so outraged at the cruel, outrageous abortion bans being enacted in states like Georgia, Alabama, and very likely within the next day, here in Missouri.

I used to think that if people just knew my story, they’d learn and want to have more sensible abortion laws. Now I know that our representatives actually don’t care, and the goal is to make them as cruel as possible with the goal of getting them escalated up to the Supreme Court to have Roe v. Wade hopefully overturned.

I have a lot more thoughts on all of this, but for this moment: I was interviewed as part of BBC Newshour today on this, and you can hear my perspective here (start at the 37 minute, 30 second mark): LINK

National Infertility Awareness Week 2019

National Infertility Awareness Week 2019

It's National Infertility Awareness Week.

6 years of waiting and wondering.

2 IUIs.

3 IVF cycles.

3+ reasons for infertility.

6 embryo transfers.

4 surgeries.

2 pre-genetic screening tests on embryos.

3 reproductive endocrinologists.

3 trips to NYC.

1 miscarriage at 9 weeks.

The devastating diagnosis of bilateral multicystic dysplastic kidney disease and saying goodbye to Grace Pearl at 22 weeks.

1 genetic counselor.

2 pediatric nephrologists.

4 Ob-gyns.

Countless blood tests, ultrasounds and procedures.

Too many negative pregnancy tests to count.

More than 500 injections.

More than $80,000.

Zero insurance coverage.

6 years of also exploring adoption and not having children.

One daughter finally in our arms, in a onesie passed down through friends that know this journey all to well.

#niaw #infertilityuncovered #iam1in8



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She is here!

Trying to become a parent to a living child has taken us on such a roller coaster of experiences and feelings over the years. Through the total of 6 years of infertility, 3 rounds of IVF, 6 embryo transfers, the miscarriage, and Grace Pearl… we have had more emotions than I thought a person could have.

And after all of those plans, and changes to those plans. and all of the time we spent adjusting and celebrating and hoping and hurting and mourning… this is a post that I feared I’d never, ever get to make. And hoped - so much - I’d get to.

I can’t believe that it’s taken me a month to make it, but to be honest, we’ve been soaking up every single moment of that month with our brand new baby girl. She’s a month old today.

She is here, and she’s everything. Everything we ever hoped for, dreamed of, and wished for. Everything we’ve worked for and waited for. Just everything. We love her so, so much.

Friends, meet Hannah.


We named her Hannah as a tribute to her sister. Hannah means full of grace in Hebrew.

I can hardly believe she’s real, and ours, and how fast she’s already growing and changing.


For once, additional words elude me. I am so, so happy. I love her so much.


So we’ll be back. We’re not going anywhere. But as we deal with the intense stuff going on in the world around us, and everything we’ve been through and this new change, we also want to let it all wash over us and take a moment to celebrate and simply enjoy.

We want to take every available second to get to know Hannah, our little gift that we were never sure we’d get. This has been a long, long time coming.